That afternoon Nadia requested time to consult the teacher of biology. To SisterFida, so he used to call it biology teacher Nadia began to complain ofproblem, that until now he could not fully 'love' toAhmad, newly married her husband two months ago."So what's with Ahmad, Nad?", Be careful brother Fida asked. ThenNadia meluncurlah of mouth, "Yes uncle Ahmad was actually good, but there is somethingwhich for me is less. Should have an activist's recitation of his liferegular, orderly, and never miss the prayer in the mosque, do not missevening prayer, reading the Qur'an 1 juz every day, always be gentle to his wife, patient,neat, could be a friend of discussion and vent wife, had taught his wife, not likewatching television, can take some heart-in-law, right? "As he fix the mess his books (his wife was out of the houseFarhan and his return from work to find his house in a state of 'helterskelter '), Farhan said to himself, "I think marrying athe veiled meaning the housekeeping so wrong. Should have a wife that couldcook, skilled home committee, worship okay, clever serve her husband, patient, diligent,soft, disconnected invited discussion, champion-in-law took my heart ...Farhan Nadia and may represent the majority of us who entered the gatesmarriage with a mountain of wishful thinking about the figure of an ideal partner. Typicallike this usually have their own idealism about the couple, long beforewedding day arrives. Idealism was so over the mind and soul to keepcarry over until they get married, and when, after marrying her partner wasnot as idealism, they were disappointed and then tends toblame circumstances or other parties.It is legitimate that we have ideals, including ideals of the criteriacouples. Unfortunately, most of us think that an ideal canjust down from heaven and incarnated in front of us. Whereas withThus our ideals that ultimately became a mere chimera.Idealism about anything will not come into reality if notchampioned.Notice the word of Allah swt in Surah An-Nisa 'verse 123:"Reward of God is not by wishful thinking nor an emptychimera by scribes. Whoever is doing the crime necessarilywill be rewarded with a crime and he did not have protective andnor helper besides Allah for him. "Back to Nadia and Farhan, their idealism about the criteria have been pairedbe a chimera. They thought that by marrying an activist recitationor a veiled woman all matters to be settled, home lifesteps into full flower fragrant scent, no gravel let alonewaves, just as beautiful as that described in the books. Chimera thatwould make them disappointed. Yes, why is as the saying goes, 'noivory that is not crack 'or' nobody's perfect '(no one is perfect). Nothere are people who Ma'shum (awake from wrong and sin) except Prophet Muhammad.All human beings must have their advantages and disadvantages, no human beingon himself alone there are only advantages, as well as no humanwhich itself is only there is a shortage. Thus imagine the couplewe are a figure flawless brother just because he or veiled,in my opinion is the view of less wise.A brother or a veiled woman is a human. Commitment andtheir adherence to the religion is a form of their seriousness inprocess the self becomes a devoted servant of God. And, it wasvery human, if in carrying out the process there are drawbacks.Hence the recitation or female activists that berjilbadoes not mean they turn into angels who have never doneerror and does not also mean they are transformed into a man without blemish.Happy household that became heaven for the residents is the ideal everypeople. But he would just be wishful thinking if no effort andstruggle from both parties-the husband-wife-to make it happen. Similarly,As with the desire to have and be a desirable ideal partner. Hewas only a wishful thinking as long as we do not try to process it intoreality. That's why marriage is actually a field of charity andjihad for the people who live it.Well, from the description above we can conclude several things:- It must be realized that the name of idealism that does not just come down fromsky, but it must be fought. That way when we have the idealismabout marriage and the ideal partner for example, we realize that formake it a reality is to fight orin other words we are ready to make our marriage later on as the charity fieldand our jihad in the process itself becomes more qualified.- Realizing that the idealism that controls the mind and soul can evolvebe a mere chimera. Married with him and will onlymake us a daydreamer, easily upset, tend not to be gratefulagainst what is, even to people who like to blame circumstancesor any other party.- Remember always that we marry our partners with all that ison himself the form of benefits and drawbacks. The surplus to be thankful,shortcomings become us to fix the fields of jihad for Allah.That way we will not be easily disappointed for any shortcomingsfound on our spouse.- Lastly, mark these words ... "Do not marry a delusion."
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